“True love finally happens when you’re by yourself.” – Lizzo
As I scrolled by way of my Spotify playlist, a number of songs appeared on my iPhone display screen: every one among them giving me a nostalgic feeling. Some have been love songs, some have been girl-power songs and others have been simply throwbacks from the outdated Disney Channel days.
I sighed as none of them gave me the uplifting feeling I wanted to get by way of my treacherous commute by way of New York Metropolis. That's till I ended for a second and listened intently as a brand new upbeat melody effortlessly flowed by way of my headphones.
Should you’ve by no means heard of the gifted singer, rapper and musician that's Lizzo, you’ve definitely been dwelling below a rock. Not solely is that this younger, vibrant girl a compelled to be reckoned with, her lyrics punch you within the intestine and shout in your face “Girl, you’re too good for this world!” Listening to her new single, Soulmate, she shares a brief story of how she overcame the necessity of wanting somebody and started to like herself. It appears straightforward to comply with, certain, however, loving your self after instances of heartache and trauma could be a greater than troublesome job.
“Cause I’m my own soulmate, I know how to love me.”
The method begins slowly. As an overindulgent society, we need to have somebody by our facet as quickly as attainable. We crave that entry, the contact, the love, the beautiful phrases however we by no means cease and assume “Am I giving this to myself?” We would like somebody to inform us that we’re fairly, sensible, humorous, beautiful or no matter optimistic adjective within the English language that may occur to make us really feel higher about ourselves.
However what occurs on the finish of the day? What occurs to our self-confidence and sense of self when these phrases disappear? The lesson we must always be taught is that love begins from inside. It’s not dates, lengthy texts and items. It’s promising your self that you simply’ll do higher and following by way of with that promise. It’s doing actions and going to occasions all by yourself. It’s stepping out of your consolation zone and from the shadows and telling the world “I’m here.”
“I know I’m a queen, but I don’t need no crown.”
Have fun your independence. Have fun your freedom and your pursuits. Have fun who you at the moment are. Have fun the entire little points in your life: good and dangerous. Have fun what makes you distinctive.
Take a minute.
“Look up in the mirror, like yeah she’s the one.”